Mediation is a guided negotiation. Your mediation team meets with both spouses together to identify what matters, gather information, and work through decisions step by step. Mediators help you communicate, clarify options, evaluate trade-offs, and reach mutually acceptable agreements. Unlike litigation where attorneys argue in court, mediation keeps control with you and focuses on practical, fair solutions you both can commit to.

Mediation is a good fit for most couples who want to resolve their divorce without a long, expensive court battle. It works best when both spouses are willing to participate, communicate honestly, and keep their children’s well-being at the center of decisions.

You do not need to agree on everything to start. Mediation provides structure, legal guidance, and emotional support while allowing you to stay in control of the outcome.

Mediation may not be appropriate in cases involving active abuse, serious safety concerns, or when one person refuses to participate. If you are unsure, a consultation can help you determine the best next step for your situation.

You do not need to hire your own attorney during mediation. Throughout the process, you work with an MDM mediation team that includes legal expertise to guide both of you toward a well-informed, balanced agreement focused on your family’s long-term stability.

Once you have reached an agreement, we encourage you to have it reviewed by an attorney who has only your best interests at heart. Even at that point, it is important to use attorneys familiar with mediation. At its heart, mediation aims for neutrality, equity, and respectful outcomes.

This will depend on many factors unique to your family. Your mediator can assist you with timing, preparations, and expectations, in addition to equipping you with information. They are experts in this field and know ALL best practices for children, adolescents, and even adult children in this situation.

No! It is frightening to think that any mis-step could result in your children being taken away! Rest assured this is very, very rare… We start with a presumption of substantially equal placement. Only if you are engaging in egregiously unsafe behaviors would this question even be raised.

Mediated divorces through MDM typically cost at least half of what a traditional two-attorney divorce costs, and often significantly less.

Total cost depends on the complexity of your finances and, more importantly, the level of conflict between you. When spouses have similar views on what a fair outcome looks like, the process is faster and less expensive. When views differ, more time is required to gather information and work through options. Even in higher-conflict cases, mediation is far less costly financially and emotionally than a traditional adversarial approach.

One important cost advantage is efficiency. Madison Divorce Mediation team members bill hourly based on their role but we structure our work so that the least expensive team member handles as much of the process as possible, such as having paralegals complete appropriate legal and document work.

For a more specific estimate, we offer a free 30-minute Zoom consultation to discuss your situation and provide realistic cost guidance.

Hiding assets is harder than many people assume. As part of the mediation process, your financial mediator reviews tax returns, paystubs, bank and investment accounts, and retirement accounts. This review typically brings significant financial activity and inconsistencies to light.

You do not move forward until you feel confident you are seeing a complete and accurate financial picture. We work with you to identify, request, and review documentation until that confidence is in place.

Mediation does not use a formal court discovery process and instead relies on full and honest financial disclosure from both spouses.

We are experienced in working with high-conflict dynamics. Divorce often amplifies difficult behaviors, and we regularly see patterns such as manipulation, control, avoidance, and intimidation.

Your mediator is a trained mental health professional who is skilled at identifying and managing these behaviors in real time. The mediation process is structured to prevent one person from dominating, misleading, or pressuring the other.

It is important to share any concerns you have early in the process. This allows your mediator to put appropriate structure, safeguards, and strategies in place from the start.

We actively address problematic behavior and hold both participants to respectful, productive engagement so that decisions are made thoughtfully, not through pressure or manipulation.

Your safety comes first. Mediation is not appropriate when there is active violence or fear that prevents one person from participating freely or safely.

If there are concerns about intimidation, fear of retaliation, or unequal power, we take that seriously and act accordingly. This may include changing the structure of the process, pausing mediation, or helping you identify safer next steps.

Our responsibility is to protect the integrity of the process and the safety of everyone involved. We will not move forward unless we believe meaningful, voluntary decision-making is possible.

This advice stems from a different age in divorce.

Wisconsin is a “no fault “ divorce state: why you are getting divorced is irrelevant. The State does not place blame, nor does it matter who initiates the action.

Wisconsin presumes equally shared custody — the right to and responsibility for your children — as well as shared placement. You moving out of the home will have no negative effects on custody or placement claims, or on your claim to that property.

You can do anything the two of you agree to, as long as you consult with each other before acting.

It is best to consult with your team before making big moves, because we can help you do so most effectively.

As soon as you have your Divorce Decree (after the final hearing), you can take it to change your driver’s license, social security card, and other legal documents. If you wish, you can informally begin using your preferred name at any time.

Yes. The effectiveness of mediation comes from creating a space where you and your spouse can speak directly with each other and work through compromises together. That direct communication is what allows progress without sacrificing fairness.

When communication happens through intermediaries, positions tend to harden and misunderstandings increase, which makes reaching agreement much more difficult. Meeting together allows mediators to guide the conversation, manage conflict in real time, and help both of you stay engaged in problem-solving rather than positional standoffs.

Legal separation and divorce are very similar under Wisconsin law, with a few key differences.

• Grounds: Divorce requires that the marriage is irretrievably broken. Legal separation requires a breakdown of the marriage. Some couples prefer this distinction for personal, financial, or religious reasons.

• Remarriage: After divorce, either party may remarry. After legal separation, neither party may remarry unless it is later converted to a divorce.

• Health insurance: Legal separation may allow a spouse to remain on the other spouse’s employer health insurance, which is often the main reason couples choose this option.

Otherwise, the process is largely the same. Both require a four-month waiting period, involve dividing assets and debts, address support the same way, and result in filing taxes separately. If you start the process as a divorce and later decide legal separation makes more sense, the court can grant a legal separation without restarting the process.

It’s normal to reach tough points. When that happens, your mediator will slow down the conversation, explore underlying interests, and help reframe options. If a particular issue truly cannot be resolved through mediation, we will talk through what that means for your process and next steps. Most couples are able to find workable solutions far more efficiently in mediation than through litigation.

Yes. Many of our mediation sessions can be conducted via secure video conferencing when appropriate. We find virtual sessions work well for scheduling flexibility and convenience, while still allowing meaningful dialogue and progress. For information gathering or signing final documents, we will provide clear guidance on what needs to happen in person versus online.

Mediation is designed to level the information field. Your financial mediator reviews tax returns, income documentation, account statements, retirement plans, and debt information so that both of you see the same comprehensive financial picture. If one spouse has limited financial experience, we explain terms, clarify values, and make sure both people understand what’s at stake before any decisions are made.